we went for our ultrasound today and the baby no longer had a heartbeat. Doctor says it was a chromosome problem. He says just because this one had a chromosome problem does not mean the next one will be and he seemed confident that we will have a baby. his bedside manner was really good and we asked if it would be a huge issue if we would just take some time away from ivf to grieve and maybe lose some more weight. he says I am young and though my AMH is very low he doesn’t think it will be a problem. He says my problem isn’t getting pregnant since I have been pregnant 7 times now, now it’s just getting me to keep the baby so it needs to be the right time right place. I feel so numb then I will bawl for a while then numb again. the stupidest stuff starts me crying like I was going to order maternity pants next week… I can’t believe I have lost 9 babies..
I’m so sorry. Have you had testing? Hugs.
thank you, not yet my fertility doctor is trying to get a hold of my regular OB doctor to find out if I need to have a D&C or which way they want to go about it. I probably wont hear from them until Monday. so far it looks as though I will have to have a D&C and hopefully they will be able to test and see what officially happened.
I’m so sorry. I know there’s nothing anyone can say to make you feel better though. Hugs sent your way.
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I am sorry to hear this. Thinking about you. Hugs.
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I am so very sorry that this happened….sending you lots of hugs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I am so sorry.
I know nothing I can say will make you feel better but know you and your husband are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time ((hugs))
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First off I am so sorry for your losses. There are no words that can ease that kind of pain just know you are in my thoughts. Secondly I just want you to know that you are living my life and for that I am deeply sorry! A friend of mine sent me a link to your blog and said here read this. I did and it took me days to get through it all. I too suffered 9 miscarriages ranging from 6-13 weeks and I too have RA and fibro. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone and while it may seem daunting now it does get better. Have they tried to put you on a ridiculously high dose of progesterone? That plus a lot of other stuff(great doctors) is what finally got mine to stay put. I have to say that people that say stuff liek “oh it’ll be worth it” are dumb and lossing lives that you loved is never “worth” it and those “friends” you have are horrible and should be letting you cry on their shoulders. I am heartbroken for you and wish no one ever had to feel the pain that I know first hand you are feeling. Hugs to you ❤
Oh goodness, I’m so very sorry that you too have lived this life. No one should ever have to go through this pain… I’m so grateful that you wrote me though, it feels good knowing you are not alone. I will mention to my doctor about the progesterone and see what he says. We are already starting to gather meds again to hopefully do another round of IVF in Aug/Sept. We shall see cause that is a lot of money needed for those meds. I still see my husband and I in the future with a baby, so my hope is still alive though the skies gets pretty dark at times. I have dropped a few friends due to their lack of compassion and sadly common sense. I would hope most people in the world would recognize that it takes more then 2 days to grieve the loss of a child. but I had a few friends that were more interested in having me go to their house to comfort them. I’m just letting go of them, I don’t need more drama I have enough in my life already.
I think that is best. I had a friend tell me my miscarriage hurt her feelings. Are you kidding me? people suck a lot. I hope that this next one works and sticks and you are a week overdue just for added measure LOL. I will send you lots of baby dust.
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I wish you lived near me…I know I dont know you but I would gladly give you my meds from my last IVF cycle…I know how expensive they are but I am super lucky to have insurance that covers it.
You are bringing tears to my eyes.. I really look up to you Cindy, you are such a strong caring and wonderful woman. I would hug you if I could. our insurance covers the ivf part which helps a lot it drops it from 13000+ to about 6000 🙂 and it covers a small portion of the meds but we found that Walgreen’s specialty store sells them cheaper then what we would pay with insurance covering a portion of it lol.
IVF is so draining both physically and emotionally that the financial aspect should not cause any undue burden…I try to pay it forward as much as I can…we should all try and help one another if possible…just know if you are ever in NYC area 🙂
I agree and same for you if you are ever in east Texas 🙂